Which lie did you tell the most?

These are the funny lies parents tell their children

"Anyone who lies once is not believed, even if they speak the truth." Parents want to instill values ​​such as sincerity and honesty in their children. In doing so, they do not always take the truth very seriously. You can read some funny lies in parenting here - and what a parenting expert has to say about them.

"If you kiss a boy, you have to marry him too."

Spinach makes you big and strong, Santa Claus brings the presents, bad children are locked up - untruths are part of the upbringing repertoire of some parents. This is also shown by a collection on the American community site "reddit.com". Parents can enter there which lies they have already told their children. Or what their own parents wanted them to believe in childhood. We have collected the funniest - but sometimes questionable and not recommended for imitation - entries:

Unfortunately, there are no replacement batteries for this toy.

When you have enough vegetables, your body makes them taste like candy.

We are not French. That's why you can't eat French fries at McDonald's.

If you eat the kernels of watermelons, watermelons will grow in your stomach.

When the ice cream truck plays its tune, it means the ice cream is all.

We got our daughter to eat fish by calling it 'Argentine Chicken'. It worked for a long time - until grandma came to visit ...

If you kiss a boy, you have to marry him too.

If you don't behave, I'll trade you for a few tools - just like I did with your siblings.

The car can only go when everyone is buckled up!

My father always told me that the dead animals on the side of the road would only sleep. They would lie down there so no one would sneak up on them.

The sweets at the supermarket checkout are just exhibits, you can't buy them.

Unfortunately I don't have any money for sweets with me.

I was told that each person can only say 10,000 words a month. Anyone who exceeded the limit could no longer speak until next month. Every time I was very talkative, my father would say, 'Look, I think you've spoken over 9,000 words this month ...' I was silent.

My mother was a genius: she told us kids that the brown M & Ms are only for adults. Every time we found a brown M&M we gave it to her ...

What an Education Expert Says About Lies In Education

These and similar falsehoods use parents to make things easier for themselves and to keep family peace. But sometimes they just want to tease their kids a little. But how useful is it to lie to your own child? "In principle, lies should not be viewed as a suitable educational method," says Dana Mundt from the online advice service of the Federal Conference for Educational Advice (bke). Parents should always ask themselves what they are setting an example for their child with such lies. "Lies often have something manipulative about them," says the qualified social pedagogue.

For example, the classic "I have no money with me", which some parents use when the child begs for sweets. "In this situation it is neither mandatory nor appropriate to lie," says Mundt. Parents just want to avoid a possible conflict. "Parents should rather be honest, set limits and introduce rules." For example, you can clearly discuss with the child how many sweets they can eat per week. And then point out: "You already had an ice cream yesterday."

The truth is a better choice in most cases

Such clear collusion is a far better choice in most situations where mothers or fathers use a lie. This is especially true for such whispers, behind which there is a threat: "If you don't come with me, then I no longer love you."

In Dana Mundt's opinion, these and similar untruths show a little bit the helplessness of the parents. "It's like blackmail and power play," she says. Clear announcements are also better in such situations. "For example, you can say that you want to leave in ten minutes. Then the children have an advance notice." Afterwards, it is important to implement them.

Similar threats like "If you don't brush your teeth now, the police will come." or "In this horror house they lock the children who are not good." are an absolute no-go for Mundt. "That only promotes the children's fears. And parents should actually offer them security."

There are exceptions: not all lies are created equal

But there are exceptions - after all, lies are not just lies: "If it cannot be avoided and it also has a deeper purpose, then I think lying is entirely justified," said Mundt. This may be the case, for example, when the children may be much more afraid of the truth. Or: "If, for example, the pet, the rabbit, has died. And the child is told that he fell asleep peacefully, although the neighbor may not have taken care of it during the vacation and he died miserably of thirst."

And then there's the Santa Claus thing. Most of the adults believed in him as a child. According to Mundt, the fairy tale of the man with a long beard, the story of the Easter bunny or the story of the tooth fairy have more to do with the true family tradition. Such fairy tales fire the imagination. "As long as the children are of a certain age, it is also nice to believe in such beings," says the educational advisor. This is especially true in the "magic phase" (around the third to fifth year of life), in which reality and fantasy still merge for the children. "I wouldn't think it would be nice to say in a highly scientific way: 'No, there is no Easter Bunny.'" However, if the child expresses doubts himself, Mundt recommends talking to the child about it and asking, "How did you come up with it?" - instead of freshening up the lies.

What's the point of lying to a child?

Food misstatements such as "If you have enough vegetables, your body makes them taste like candy". - according to Dana Mundt, they may be okay. Nevertheless, parents should ask themselves what purpose such a sentence should serve. And whether this cannot perhaps also be achieved with the truth. "When it comes to the fact that one wants to eat healthier in the family, then it is actually better to set an example," says the expert. "For example, you can go shopping together, find delicious recipes, try something together."

Ultimately, the role model function of parents should not be forgotten. Children learn most of their early development from the parental model. "And as a parent, I also want the children to be honest with each other and for them to confide in me later." You certainly can't do that by lying.

If you have any questions or are unsure about parenting issues, parents can contact the Advice centers of the Federal Conference for Educational Advice contact on site or online. Information can be found at www.bke-elternberatung.de. The advice is free of charge.